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Preparing for a Hen Do with Fibromyalgia

I'm not going to lie, I've got an insanely busy few months coming up. As someone who is used to spending a lot of time alone, this is genuinely so different to my normal life, but I'm so happy about it! I did a quick post earlier this year going over some of the things I've got going on this year, so I thought I'd share some posts about how I'm preparing for these with regards to my fibro.
First up I've got two hen do weekends for two amazing bride to be's this year. I am so excited and crazily happy that I've been asked to attend. I've got one in Benidorm and one in Leeds, and they're both going to be jam packed with activities to make it an unreal time. But with this comes a lot of preparation on my end, to make sure I know I can have a fantastic weekend without a dreaded fibro flare. Whilst I'm fully expecting to need a bit of recovery after, I'd like to try and make it through both weekends without a flare up.
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The Fibro Diaries | My Final Thoughts on the Pain Management Programme

So it's been a few weeks since I finished my Pain Management Programme so I thought I would do a quick post about my experience, as a quick round up about the whole experience.

I decided to go to the pain management because I needed help with mentally dealing with chronic pain. Additionally, I'm not on any medication either and was hoping I could stay off for as long as possible just while I'm still young. The pain management programme seemed to offer everything I needed to get a handle on my chronic illness.

I was really nervous about the group setting. I have a constant fear that people will think I'm faking my illness, that it's not as bad as I make out etc because I can still work full time and do a lot of the things I want to. This isn't easy I might add, it's a constant battle, but this still has me worry that other people with chronic illnesses will judge me and not take me seriously. I automatically started to worry that this would be the same here, I was dreading sharing my story. Thankfully though, we never had to. You could share personal stories if you wanted, but you were never made to so that pressure was instantly gone. It was actually really good doing this in a group setting as there's a lot more support too.

There's not much I can say about the negatives of the pain management programme. You're given a huge booklet that has information in that you'll cover each week. It's quite daunting being given so much information at once, so I think it would have been a good idea to have been given smaller ones each week that covered what you would be doing that week.

We also have a meeting with one of the pain management team to discuss how we found the course, if we need any more sessions or if we're ready to be discharged. I've actually already had this session, it seemed a bit early if I'm honest. I think it would have been good if we could have a big groups session 6 months later to see how everyone had been, to get some advice or motivation if we'd struggled and discussed whether it had worked for us.

If you've read my previous posts you'll know that one of my favourite sections of the pain management sessions was the relaxation/mindfullness exercise. I know it won't help everyone but I was amazed at how different I felt after, it's something that will help me when I'm feeling overwhelmed so I'm on the look out for some free videos with some relaxing videos for when I need it. I also really enjoyed learning about sleep and improving sleep hygiene. I hate having chronic fatigue but it was actually really helpful to learn why and how it works for people with fibromyalgia.

You would think that the fact these sessions aren't illness specific would be a bad thing but it was so easy to fit everything to your own lives. There was also a few times where I didn't think things would be relevant to me but then half way through I realised I could use it in the future, so that was always good. I'm currently saving for my own house, living at home there's not a lot I need to worry about or sort out but obviously this will change. It's good to know I'm sorted for any stress once I live at home, and I know I can go back any time if I need to for some extra sessions.

There's a lot of work to do to feel the full effects of the pain management programme, and it's important you know this before you go. At the end of the day though, it's worth it! I'm going to share with you in some upcoming posts my journey as I start up all the things I've taken from this programme. This might help with anyone struggling with pacing or flare up plans.

I'd also love to hear if people have anything they would like me to blog about when it comes to chronic illnesses! I've considered a Q&A but I'm 100% sure if I was to tweet about it no one would reply, although it's something I really want to do so if you do have any questions for a future Q&A post feel free to send them my way!

Abbey xx


  1. I commented on twitter ... saying Eff them! I did a post the other day about my journey with fibro xox

    1. Best way to see it really! No-one else knows your pain as well as you do! Thanks for sharing, will check out your post too! xx


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