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Preparing for a Hen Do with Fibromyalgia

I'm not going to lie, I've got an insanely busy few months coming up. As someone who is used to spending a lot of time alone, this is genuinely so different to my normal life, but I'm so happy about it! I did a quick post earlier this year going over some of the things I've got going on this year, so I thought I'd share some posts about how I'm preparing for these with regards to my fibro.
First up I've got two hen do weekends for two amazing bride to be's this year. I am so excited and crazily happy that I've been asked to attend. I've got one in Benidorm and one in Leeds, and they're both going to be jam packed with activities to make it an unreal time. But with this comes a lot of preparation on my end, to make sure I know I can have a fantastic weekend without a dreaded fibro flare. Whilst I'm fully expecting to need a bit of recovery after, I'd like to try and make it through both weekends without a flare up.
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The Fibro Diaries | Small Changes I've Made to Make Life With Fibromyalgia Easier

I'm sure all you fibro warriors out there can agree that 'easy life' and 'fibromyalgia' definitely don't go together! Fibromyalgia seems to be that illness that aims to just make the easiest of tasks 1000 times harder, which is just no fun at all! 

I'm sure I won't be the first, or last person to talk about how making small changes in your everyday life will make things just a little bit easier in the long run, whether you have a chronic illness or not. I thought I'd share with you all the things I've done to try and make life just that little bit easier.

1. Fresh new do
This was a mix of making life easier and also just wanting a change. My hair was getting quite long, way too long to be doing anything with, so it always just hung there on my head. It was also just so annoying having to wash and dry it! It would take forever, and my arms just couldn't take it anymore. I decided to get it cut to a shorter length, meaning it takes barely any time at all to wash and dry it, and it looks so much better now too!

2. Altered My Wardrobe
Okay, this is only to an extent as I do still have some clothes that are specifically for the days I feel up for going out with friends for drinks etc. I fell in love with culottes this summer, they're so comfortable, which is so import especially on a bad pain day. They still look good too though and you can get more dressy ones so you can still look good when you're putting your comfort first! I also plan my footwear a lot too, my ankles are so weak so I now have insoles, and basically I only have shoes that fit these insoles in and that have a good sole! It means I don't have to have that worry on if my footwear will cause anymore problems.

3. Learned How to Communicate
I never knew how to communicate my pain and fatigue to family and friends, which just really made it difficult to handle flare ups etc especially if I had plans that I felt I needed to cancel. Thanks to the Pain Management Programme I went through this summer, I was able to learn how to communicate my pain and fatigue, which made my life a whole lot easier. It means they know when I'm having a particularly bad day, I don't need to feel guilty as I know they understand, and there's no miscommunication.

4. Prioritised 'Me' Time
I'm first to admit that I am constantly pushing myself just a little too much, which often leads to me being completely worn out and having a little breakdown to my Mam about how stressed I am. Having some time to yourself is so important whether you have a chronic illness or not, but it's something I try and do at least once a week, normally throwing a face mask on, doing my nails and watching a film/tv show just to give myself some alone time. I get overwhelmed very easily when spending time with other people, so without having this time to myself I would struggle socialising with my friends.

5. Learned to Give Myself a Break
I'm always beating myself up on the days where my fibro is especially bad, constantly getting annoyed at myself for not being able to do all the things that everyone else can. This can be so dangerous though, at the end of the day you're always doing your best! I've quickly learned that dwelling on it when I'm having a flare up does nothing but make the pain worse, and so I'm managing to remind myself that despite those small setbacks during a flare up, I'm still doing pretty well all things considered!

I'd love to hear your hints and tips to make life easier! Comment below or you can tweet me 😊

Abbey xx


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